With The Help Of DansDeals: A Jewish Doctor Gets A Proper Burial

by Daniel Eleff – DansDeals

Last week I shared the story of a 141 year old siddur and family tree that made its way across continents to be returned to its owner, thanks to DDF, or the DansDeals Forums.

After reading the story, a DDF member, who is a Chabad shliach in Fargo, North Dakota, figured he would try his luck and ask the forums for help.

He met Dr. Jay Goldstein just a few weeks ago. The Doctor was not planning on having a Jewish burial, but the shliach was called in to help him say his final prayers.

In addition to saying viduy, the Doctor tearfully agreed to put on tefilin, while telling the shliach that he never thought he would ever put them on again. After donning tefilin, he felt so inspired that he agreed to have a Jewish burial.

But there was one issue. He was estranged from his family and didn’t remember his parents’ Jewish names.

In Judaism, being buried in a traditional manner is absolutely critical and part of that is the Kel Maleh Rachamim and kaddish prayers which are said with the deceased’s name and father’s name.

And so on Thursday evening, the shliach asked DDF for help tracking down his parents Jewish names to have at the funeral on Friday afternoon.

Goldstein is an awfully common Jewish name, but the DDF magic got to work with many members doing research and coming up with cemeteries where the parents were buried.

A DDF moderator pinged his brother in law Nachy Schechter in Philadelphia, who on Friday morning went to the cemetery which seemed most likely to be the location of the parents. Unfortunately, the markers in the cemetery were in total disarray and even with the help of the caretaker he was unable to find the graves.

Meanwhile on DDF, members were still hard at work and eventually with the shliach’s help they were able to track down the exact location of his parents final resting place. On Friday afternoon, the moderator’s brother in law headed to Roosevelt cemetery and found Jay’s parents’ headstones with their Hebrew names, Raizel and Shalom. He posted them to DDF at 2:59pm ET, with less than an hour to go before the funeral in North Dakota!

It’s an incredible zechus for everyone who helped, and all of the other DDFers who chipped in.

And as one forum participent so eloquently pointed out, Schar Mitzvah Mitzvah, the reward of a Mitzvah is another Mitzvah! Keep the chain going. Chabad Shluchim in far flung locations have immense challenges and small contributions can make a big difference. I was happy to make a donation before Shabbos in honor of everyone’s amazing work to Chabad of North Dakota and I hope you’ll consider doing the same as well.

It’s also pretty incredible to think about what can happen from a post about a Siddur!

May Reb Yaakov ben Shalom’s neshama have an aliya!

Some information was altered for clarity.